Friday, October 29, 2010

Improvement

After so long I never blog, today I decided to spill out words from my heart. Lately I never have the time to blog due to continuous busy-ness from doing assignments to preparation of tutorials questions as a group and also part of my social life (yoga mostly).

As for today's topic, I have a few doubts in my head that I could not answer it myself. Maybe a third party's point of view will be handful? (An incident took place just now...)
Usually we will gather in groups for discussion for one of our courses, Corporate Governance. Since we had done our part completely and nothing to do, we utilised that time for other courses discussion to fully utilise our time. I'm a bit over concerned about one of our FULL-coursework course, Case Studies. Since we will be assess based on course work ONLY I pointed out my point of view and penalised other group's mistake so that we will be more cautious and score the max.

As the discussion goes by, I suggested to my team members that she got to improve her's part as I think there's a room for improvement. Out of no where, she became so defensive saying to me, "there is no right or wrong answer...all we need to do is to present it well in front of the lecturer."
Well, I got to agree on that statement but my point wasn't on the right or wrong answer. I was just suggesting to improve on that part as I personally feel that it is a bit messy and the explanation was not that clear and straight to the point. So, I did tried to say that but I wasn't given the chance as she kept repeating on saying that "there is no right or wrong answer...all we need to do is to present it well in front of the lecturer."
That repetitive really get on my nerves seriously! I was just being kind to highlight what other group has done wrong and so that we will never repeat that SILLY mistake (I feel that those mistake should not be made!)
After trying so hard to explain myself, she added on saying that "Our lecturer didn't listen to us them (point to the previous group) and he was asleep at that time." I did said that I want an interactive presentation. Based on what I saw on the previous group, they are just communication among themselves and the slides or notes. That is definitely not the presentation method should be adopted!

*Sigh* The discussion wasn't fruitful but at least we have some ideas on what to do, at least? I really dont understand that:
1) Is is wrong to tell some one to IMPROVE on own parts?
2) Why people turns defensive when people tells you to IMPROVE?

Now, I'm really wondering WHY? At times it's so bad to have more than ONE Opinion Leader in a group because both of them always want to be heard and give their opinion. I just got to tolerate at times but I'll still be firm on my stands!
However, this is the best group that I have ever met since way back my diploma's life until recently. They are proactive and we are working as a team which I value it a lot.



***p/s: This isn't a complain but need to express out myself...=)

6 comments:

Brian LZQ said...

In my humble opinion, there is absolutely nothing wrong with your intentions but you may want to use a different approach next time... Everyone has different maturity rate and sometimes they may not realise the problem. Life is about trial and error and thus there is no doubt that we should learn from our mistakes in order to grow.. However pushing people off there comfort zone may be offensive for some. Just give them some time and try something like..."Hey! Lets rock this presentation shall we?" Anyway its just my humble opinion..

†<ק×ë×Ã×n×>†® said...

brian: thanks for the feedback! as I really need one because I really dont wish things to get worse..=)
I should try more "positive" statements...

Chengjie said...

"At times it's so bad to have more than ONE Opinion Leader in a group because both of them always want to be heard and give their opinion."
I'm strongly agree with this statement! That's what discuss and compromise should take place!
Agree with ur friend brian too! Sometimes thing just cant work on certain people..
I know what kind of defensive reaction that you mean.. Haha... It doesn't feel good...

†<ק×ë×Ã×n×>†® said...

CJ: haha..Guess you've been through that much more times than I do..so, what I did was trying my best to compromise..
Anyway, I always compromise and tolerate..=)

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